Life can be tough. Most Christian singles would agree. There’s always lots of pressure, and it comes from everyone – those you know, and some you don’t.
Growing up in a world where most people are choosing to reject God can be tough. That already means you’re against the grain, the minority, so to speak. Everything you stand for sticks out as being the unpopular view. Being single – and a Christian single at that – can be your life’s toughest mission.
3. You Need To Discover Yourself… Quickly.
Being single is a short time. More than likely, you’ll spend a lot more time being married than being single. Because of that, it’s important to know what to do within that special time of your life.
Being single is about setting a course for your life. It’s the time that you have to yourself, and that’s the time to figure out who you are, and who you want to be in life.
That’s important, because it is that person you discover, that you’ll want to share if you get married.
Many times, people take lightly the time of being single. A lot of the soul searching, discovery, self-worth and personal development that needs to happen at that time gets rushed over in the pursuit of an attachment or relationship.
Because of this, there are many in relationships who don’t even know who they are. Forget about knowing the other person if you don’t even know yourself. You can’t understand the other person if you don’t know yourself.
Single time is the much needed me time for everyone. Take it. Remember, you’re single for a reason and you’ll be married at some point for another reason. Take the time to figure out who you are, what you’re like and the kind of person you want to be. It’s the time to set a course for your life and purpose on earth. Use it wisely.
4. Love Is A Decision, Not A Feeling Or An Event
We’re not going to talk about all the different kinds of love and what each one means. We could, but we’re not. Maybe another time.
What we’ll do, though, is understand that although emotions, feelings and affection are an important part of love, it’s not the most important.
Feelings are quite fickle; they are fleeting, often circumstantial and it’s a known fact that you won’t always feel the best in your relationship or marriage, even for the person that you know you love.
Real love is always a choice.
You choose to be there for someone. You choose to always find a way to forgive them even when they’ve offended you. You choose to make excuses for them rather than blame them when you don’t know their reasons for doing things that hurt you. You choose to see the best in them no matter what. You… choose.
It’s all a decision you take, to prefer someone and give them the kind of treatment that goes beyond themselves.
5. Enjoy Being Single; It Will Not Be Forever
Now ain’t that the truth! It’s not forever.
That is good and bad news for many at the same time. It’s good news, because then it means it will end, and you will eventually marry a man or woman you love and respect. It’s bad news, because you will eventually marry someone.
Either way, it’s up to you to enjoy yourself. There are ways you enjoy your life and have good, clean fun when you’re single, that you’ll never have when you’re in a relationship or married. You need to make the most of those.
Go out; live a happy life. Make a difference in other people’s lives and be fulfilled. That’s the way to enjoy your single life. When it’s time to get into a relationship, you’ll be happy, healthy, purposeful and aware of who you are, and more importantly, who Christ is in you.
You’ll be better company, believe me.