One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!
You see that statement “Am I your mate?” does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. Below are dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must relate on.
MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE
Marry someone you find it easy speaking with. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don’t marry someone you find very difficult in communicating. Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can’t enjoy that marriage.
Some of these tension in marital relationships cause many couples to hang out with friends more. Because they know their spouse can’t engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. Marry your speaking Mate.
MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE
By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don’t marry ‘ Mr Know all’ or ‘Miss Know all’. Don’t marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your ‘school’ mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.
MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE
Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don’t marry someone who’s believe of God is different from yours. Two can’t work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.
MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE
Don’t marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy partner in courtship won’t suddenly become a generous one in marriage. Don’t marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ”My husband’s money is our money, but my money is my money”. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labor , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.
MARRY YOUR SEX MATE
Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Having a sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God placed in every individual. Sex plays a major role in the success of many marriage. So it is important to have emotional feelings for the person you marry. If you don’t have emotional feelings for that partner, leave them alone to find their path. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won’t be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won’t be reading the Bible or worshiping God 24/7. You will definitely have sex at some point. You will romance and flirt with each other sometimes. You may also make babies and this is only possible through sex. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!
MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE
Don’t marry someone you won’t be proud to go out with. Don’t marry someone you feel uncomfortable introducing to others with pride. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with.
You might be wondering if you can find all the ‘mates’ in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don’t need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you.
You must also work on yourself and build your life, so you can be all that for the partner that will marry you.
The promise of God for you is this “Seek and read from the book of the LORD. Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.”(Isaiah 34:16).
Say it loud and clear ‘ I shall not lack a mate.
INSIGHT: MR. ERIC WIREKO (Educationist, Teacher)