Earning The Respect of Your Teenage Children By David Burrows

 Parents should care for their children.

Scripture states, “…Children are a reward from Him” (Ps. 127:3 NIV). However, in today’s busy and mixed-up society, children are very frequently seen more as a burden than as a treasure. Parents sometimes don’t care about or for their children. Caring does not mean simply providing for their children’s daily needs; it also means teaching them the difference between right and wrong and taking time to see that their concerns are taken care of and their questions about life are answered.

A parent who cares will spend time with his or her children and talk to them about what the children want to talk about. Many teens become distant from their parents because of their parents’ one-way communication with them. Some parents only talk to their children when the children are in trouble or when they failed to carry out an assigned task.
Ask teens about their favorite music group or their favorite basketball team or player. Ask them about school, their friends, and their plans for the future. The more you talk with them, the more you learn about them. Parents must take good care of what God has entrusted to them.

 

Parents are supposed to discipline their children.

The issue of discipline is a big one for both parents and teens. Teenagers know that discipline is a painful part of love, and they actually want to be disciplined. A parent who takes time to correct a young person may not be liked at the moment when the discipline is administered, but he or she will be respected.

The Bible states very clearly that if you ignore discipline, your children will go astray. How many times have you seen a spoiled brat? Worse yet, a rich spoiled brat? No one likes to be around that type of child—discipline gives your children an advantage beyond monetary. Of course, when a child reaches those teen years, the methods of discipline employed by the parents should change.
Younger children often need physical discipline. However, if a child has been under your care for 13 years and does not respond to your discipline, you must not have disciplined properly during the earlier years. In such a case physical punishment is no longer the answer. The revocation of privileges, added chores, stricter curfews, restrictions as to where they can go, or reduced allowances can be used to discipline a teen. Keep in mind that the discipline needs to be appropriate for the given situation.

 

-Kingdom Parenting (Connecting Principles)