Teenagers are a unique and often self-contradictory breed. As a group, they strive for individuality yet crave peer acceptance. They act like they know everything and yet lack much experience. They feel invincible and yet are often insecure. Some teenagers thrive on testing and challenging authority. A few may be self-destructive.
It’s not easy when you have to deal with difficult teenagers in your life, whether they are your children, students, athletes, group members, or employees. What can you do in the face of a challenging adolescent? Below are seven keys to successfully handle teenagers, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Communicate Effectively and Handle Difficult Teenagers”. Not all of the tips below may apply to your particular situation. Simply utilize what works and leave the rest.
When Dealing with a Group of Difficult Teens, Focus on the Leader – Many teachers know that when they face a group of disruptive students in class, it’s not necessary to deal with each offender individually. Often times, by being firm on the leader and having her fall in line, the rest of the group will follow. Another management technique is to separate the challenging persons physically (via assigned seating, different workgroups, etc.) so they’re less likely to form a clique and feed off of each other.
What works with students can also work with teenagers in other situations, whether they’re your children, athletes, employees, or group members. By focusing on the leader, and dividing and conquering unseemly behavior, a body of teenagers is more likely to behave appropriately.
Adolescence is the age of change. It is a vulnerable time when kids can develop unhealthy habits that grow into problems in their adult life. Behavior issues of adolescence, which are quite common, also crop up during this time, making it impossible for parents to reach out to their teenagers.Physical changes happen due to change in the teenager’s hormone levels.
1. Development of full breasts in girls can be awkward in the beginning.
2. Girls may start to feel conscious about their figure.
3. Change of voice and appearance of facial hair in boys is perhaps the most prominent change that takes place during adolescence.
4. Acne is one of the major problems.
5. Muscle gain sometimes leads to excessive body weight in teens.
6. The growth of pubic hair in girls and boys.
7. Body odor becomes evident.
8. Girls start their periods.
1. The best way you can do to help your teenager get through the stage is to make them aware of these changes.
2. Explain that it is normal for the body to change as every teenager goes through it!
3. Help them adapt to these changes – acknowledge the change and help them accept it.
4. Enable them to stay healthy and fit through a nutritious diet and exercise.
5. Emotional changes and problems – Hormones affect your teenager not only physically but also emotionally.