Parents must encourage their children.
Encouragement is a part of nurturing. Parents must be there for their children. You, as a parent, might take it lightly when you don’t keep a promise, but your teens won’t. Let your word be good. Show up for the play in which they are performing. Be at the ball game when they play. If they make good grades, reward them. Even if they make mistakes, encourage them to try again and to do better. If you have good children, don’t frustrate them. I have seen parents whose children are well-behaved, ordinary kids, yet they treat them as if they were the most rotten teens in the world.
Thank God if you have teens who keep their word, don’t do drugs, and are not promiscuous. Give them more responsibility as they demonstrate the ability to be trusted. I have also known of parents who denied their children attendance at a church or youth group meeting as a punishment. Don’t do that. Youth groups and church are the two places where they are most likely
Parents need to listen and try to relate.
Another old saying that relates to young people is: “Children should be seen and not heard.” That is simply wrong. Children need a forum in which to be heard. If you don’t provide them with a forum where they can be heard, there are many people who will, and those people don’t have your heart, and they don’t really care about your children. Parents must understand what motivates their children, what interests them, what music they listen to, which books they read, and who they consider to be their heroes.
Parents who don’t know what music their children listen to are out of touch. Today’s musicians and entertainers tell teens to get high, kill, steal, rape, and rebel. Stop by your nearest music store and read the lyrics to popular songs. Or check out the lyrics of the songs on the Internet. If you know what music your children listen to, you have a better idea of where their heads are. You won’t be able to become a teenager again, but you must learn how to relate to your teenager. Ask your teens questions such as, “What are some of the new sayings among teens today? What do they mean?” Parents may assume a lot and yet know very little.
-Kingdom Parenting (Connecting Principles)