How do parents earn the respect of their children and retain the rights inherent in their position?

 Parents should provide for their children.

It is the responsibility of parents to provide for their children. Children do not ask to be born. Whenever children are brought into this world, the parent or parents have the responsibility of providing all the necessities for their children, according to the parents’ abilities to do so. Note what the Bible says concerning this responsibility:
…After all, children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children
(2 Corinthians 12:14 NIV).

Parents should provide food, shelter, and clothing for their children in line with their ability to do so. Parents should not waste money by buying everything their children desire, however. Many times children lack discretion; as a result, they would buy anything they could. After all, they don’t have to work. You should not have children if you are not prepared to provide for them.


 Parents should not provoke their children.

Parents should not abuse the authority God gave to them by abusing their children, by failing to provide for them, or by living a life of double standards. “Provoking children” could mean being too restrictive, abusive, or unfair with regard to expectations or living contrary to God’s Word and still expecting children to obey without question. Note again what the Bible says:
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4 NIV).

Parents should remember that their teens are only a few years away from becoming parents themselves. The teenagers of today will become the parents of tomorrow. Today’s parents must ensure that their way of life does not drive their children in the wrong direction. Rather, their lifestyle should point young people toward the path they want them to follow.


-Kingdom Parenting (Connecting Principles)