Secrets of Manly Leadership Pt 2 (Loving and Changing) – Joseph Prince

To Love As Christ Loved

Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.

We are to love our wives the way Jesus loved the church. And how did Jesus love the church? He “gave Himself”. The Bible doesn’t say, “For God so loved the world, He gave a box of candies.” He didn’t give you a bunch of flowers either! On the cross, Jesus gave Himself.

Ladies, don’t marry a guy just because he is rich and gives you gifts. He can give you presents without giving you his presence! Money doesn’t guarantee you happiness. Go, instead, for someone who is able to give himself for you. Go for someone with self-sacrificial love.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”. That is self-sacrificial love. Guys, your wife will not find it hard to submit to you when she knows that you love her self-sacrificially. Take Jesus as our example. It’s not hard to submit to Him when we know how much He loves us and that He has our best interests at heart.

 

Let God Do The Changing

Some husbands may say, “Pastor Prince, if I just love my wife, she’ll never see her faults, she’ll never change!”

You can’t change your wife. Your part is to love her and let God do the changing. Ladies, likewise, your part is to submit to your husband and let God change him.

Many times, we tell our spouses, “I want you to change and then I will love you.”

But God’s way is the opposite:

“Men, love first and then I will transform her. Ladies, submit first and then I will change him.”