Six Ways to Find Unforgiveness and Remove It {Part 2}

If someone has hurt you, don’t spend the next 10 years of your life hurting yourself by hanging on to that offense. Most likely, that other person isn’t even thinking about you, while you dwell on the incident for years. That only hurts one person—you.

You see, when you forgive someone, you are helping yourself.

4) Unforgiveness has a martyr syndrome.

“I do all the work.” Workaholics are particularly susceptible to this one. Sometimes people who work all the time and don’t know how to enjoy their life get jealous when other people are enjoying life. Is there someone who aggravates you when you see them having a good time? If yes, you could have unforgiveness toward them.

5) Unforgiveness always alienates, divides and separates.

When the kids are acting up, we say “my husband’s kids” or maybe something like, “What are you going to do about your son?” Those are divisive statements. Maybe you have a coworker who you stay away from as much as possible or a sibling you don’t talk to much…why do you separate yourself from them? Maybe you need to forgive that person.

6) Unforgiveness is always envious and jealous when angry at someone who gets blessed.

If someone who has hurt you gets a blessing, it grates on you…at least it did for me until I learned how to forgive. Forgiveness is a decision—not a feeling.

When you pray for people who have hurt you, it’s a choice. But there’s healing in that for you. Bless and do not curse them means to speak well and not evil of them when that person is not around. And be good to them in various ways as wisdom allows.

Improve Your Life

I want to encourage you today to make a decision to start living a lifestyle of forgiveness and refuse to be offended.

A forgiving lifestyle helps you become more like Christ. As you learn the importance of forgiveness and begin to practice forgiving others, your heart will heal from bitterness, and your personal growth will lead you to the promotions God has planned for you.