Two types of communicators are the ELABORATORS and CONDENSERS.
Elaborators are people who tend to talk more than others whiles Condensers are people who do not talk as much and do not include a lot of detail in their conversation.
In marriage, these two personalities can be a couple and here is how to go about communication:
Choosing your words wisely.
Your words have the power to build up and bless or tear down and hurt. Avoid making critical, hurtful, or demeaning comments to your spouse or about your spouse to others.
1 peter 3:10, “for he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile.
Words have the power to build up and to destroy. Proverbs 25:11 “a word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”
Grace and truth must be joined together in communication. When arguing, remember this is not your business partner.
Before you shout, call a time-out, Don’t end up hurting the very person you love the most and don’t always say okay when you know that it is not okay.
Positive elements in your communication;Healthy communication should have:
Negative elements to avoid: “corrupt communication” Ephesians 4:29.
• comparing your spouse to others • lying
• being defensive
• being emotionally withholding
Questions to ask yourself before you speak:
• “am i under control?”
• “am i speaking the truth in love?”
• “will what i’m about to say help or hurt?”
• “is this the right time and place to say what needs to be said?”
Compliment your spouse in public
Do not criticize or tear down your spouse in public.
Avoid sharing private personal information about your marriage
Observe the principle of proper timing. Timing is very important: the success of a conversation can be maximized if the timing of the conversation is carefully chosen.
Mark 6:31, “and he said unto them, come ye yourselves apart into a desert place, and rest a while: for there were many coming and going, and they had no leisure so much as to eat.”