The personal rewards of forgiveness has its own benefits. These benefits include reducing anger, hurt, depression and stress, while increasing feelings of optimism, hope, compassion, physical vitality, self–efficacy, conflict resolution skills and confidence.
Forgiveness can even improve our physical health with some studies suggesting it reduces hypertension (link is external). One article published in IDEA Fitness Journal showed study results (link is external) indicating that “people who are forgiving tend to have not only less stress but also better relationships, fewer general health problems and lower incidences of the most serious illnesses including depression, heart disease, stroke and cancer.”
To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds.” ~ Wayne Dyer
“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” ~ Maya Angelou
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, to be at peace, to be happy and to be able to sleep at night.
You’re not doing this for them, you’re doing it for yourself, to set yourself free from the feelings of hurt, anger, and helplessness that kept both of you attached for so long, and to be at peace.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute if the strong.” ~ Gandhi
Contrary to what you have been led to believe, forgiveness is an act of strength. You don’t forgive because you are weak, but because you are strong enough to realize that only by letting go of resentments you will be happy and at peace.
If you forgive, you will be forgiven