A little more than 20 years ago, my life changed dramatically. I lost my husband, my father, and my mother in less than seven years. I didn’t know it at the time, but I had entered a very intense school. The lessons were the hardest I’ve ever had to work through.
Many times I thought I was lost. I was really struggling. I wanted to go back to how it was, but we can’t go back. We have to learn to accept what we cannot change. Acceptance allows us to use our pain as a means of growth. I had no idea at the time that so much pain could be so rich with promise, but it is.
One thing that helped was my belief that all things come bearing a gift—a principle gleaned from my many years as a Unity student. I clung to that belief tenaciously. The necessity of finding that gift was what got me out of bed in the morning.
About a year after my husband died, I found out about Dr. Deepak Chopra, and an entirely new path opened before me. They say when the student is ready, the teacher appears. Well, the teacher had definitely appeared. So without my realizing it, I’d been set on a path that not only would help me heal, it answered my questions about how I could help and how I could serve.
One of the things I’ve learned is that you have to let go of how you think things should be so you can be open to God’s plan for you. Eventually, you begin to understand everything is exactly the way it should be at a particular moment. True, you may be hurting like crazy—emotionally, physically, or some other way—but at that particular moment, this is exactly the way things need to be so you can learn what you need to learn, so you can grow in the way you need to grow.
Yes, challenge is part of life, but no matter how difficult something may seem, there is always a way. You are never lost. More than that, you are being guided—and loved—every step of the way.
By Donna Miesbach